Desire is a Good Thing

When was the last time you wanted something?

When was the last time you said that desire out loud? To someone else?

When was the last time you gave yourself the time, energy, and resources to go after what you desired?

When was the last time you got what you wanted?

If you can answer these questions with something that happened recently - I’d love to hear about it! For many of us, especially women… especially moms… we do our best to “stuff” our desires in order to focus on everyone else first.

In my Coaching practice, one of the first questions I ask my clients is “what do you want?” Most people can’t answer… at least without a lot of digging and hemming and hawing.

We’ve been conditioned that wanting something for ourselves is selfish, bad, and for some, even sinful.

But what if? What if allowing ourselves to explore our desires could actually help us access that part of us that knows what our best life could look like? What if we were to trust that inner knowing that’s only purpose is to lead us to a fulfilling, joy-filled, amazing life?

What if… instead of focusing on all the bad that could happen if we actually gave in to a desire - we focused on the amazing opportunities that could open up? Somewhere along the way, we were taught that having what we want was “dangerous” in one way or another… But what if that’s wrong?

What if that “critter brain,” that most primal part of us, is trying to protect us from losing love, safety, and belonging by not allowing us to desire? What if it’s trying to protect us from disappointment? From others judging us? From failing?

What if…. We proved that critter brain wrong?!

What if… We believed in ourselves and our desires so much, that we couldn’t lose?

Have I had desires in my life that I was sure would make my life infinitely better? Yep! Have I failed at making those desires happen? Yep! But guess what? Half the fun is the journey to get there - the person I have to become to even try; the lessons I learn along the way and when I fail… and rise again.

Desire is what makes life exciting. It’s what gives us something to look forward to. It’s what encourages us to keep growing - and evolving. It’s what makes us believe there is always more - and we have the choice to go after it.

This week, take a few moments of stillness and ask yourself, “What do I want? Really want?” Then, do me a favor and believe that you could have it. Imagine it coming to fulfillment… See it, feel it, sense it.

Then? Go for it!